I found this quote in a movie review for a new movie, Elegy. While I’ve never read the essay from which it hails this quote lept off the page at me.
“In sex, as in other things, we have liberated fantasy but killed imagination, and so have sealed ourselves in selfishness and loneliness. Fantasy is of the solitary self, and it cannot lead us away from ourselves. It is by imagination that we cross over the differences between ourselves and other beings and thus learn compassion, forbearance, mercy, forgiveness, sympathy, and love.”
From Wendell Berry’s essay: “Sex, Economy, Freedom, and Community”